My folks have been together for forty years, this is longer than most marriages I know.
I asked them 1 day what is the secret to a long lasting marriage.
They explained that they never put off having fights. If you find something that’s not to your taste, you address it there plus then. This ensured that they never go to bed with a heavy heart, or not speaking to each other. Truly, I guess that this has worked well for them, because they do have some epic fights. These aren’t those abusive or damaging fights, however healthy arguments that help them solve concerns. If they ever fail to see eye to eye, they tend to find a compromise that will labor for both of them; Recently, I witnessed 1 of their more epic fights. This was over temperature control settings which dad complained Dad was hogging. Dad has been feeling ill, so in summer, she still wants the house to be warm! Given how humid it is outside, the heat can become quite unbearable in the house! Dad tried understanding why Mama chose to leave the house hot in June when she was super ill. But, by November, Mama wanted some chill in the house plus would change the temperature control settings. Dad plus Mama always quarrel about the temperature control settings, however this time it got quite epic. So, in order for them to keep living in harmony, I had them install a new Heating plus A/C zoning device. That way, their bedroom would be nice plus hot for mom, plus the rest of the house cool for dad. This was the smartest compromise since Dad enjoys spending time in their bedroom while making her merchandise.